We’ve all seen the video.
We’ve all read the long essays on Facebook about how wrong Kevin Samuels is.
But what we’re not talking about is, Sis. If you read our vlog often, you know – we find a lesson in everything. And I especially found one in this video with Relationship Coach, Kevin Samuels, and Sis that wants a six-figure man. ( the real one not just the 7-minute clip world star put out)
Let me start off by saying your preference is your preference and nothing or no one can tell you, you’re wrong for having that said preference. But sis, this is where I need to bring you to the pink table and have a real conversation.
It’s time for some Strut Talk…
Don’t miss your blessing because it’s not packaged how you want!Tweet me
1. Don’t miss your blessing because it’s not packaged how you want! Sir may not come with six figures already, AS HIS HELPMATE (because you know that’s what you’re supposed to be, right?!)… you just may be the missing link. It may be meant for you to push him, walk with him for him to get that level! It may be meant for y’al to grow togetherrrrrrr.
The amount of money he makes doesn’t define the kind of man he is. Stop attaching a person’s value to the amount of money in their bank account.Tweet Me
2. Sis, Don’t get caught up on money. You can have a six-figure man, a “high-value” man that treats you like shit! The amount of money he makes doesn’t define the kind of man he is. Stop attaching a person’s value to the amount of money in their bank account.
3. Don’t you ever fix your mouth and give yourself a “5” on the scale of 1 -10.
If you don’t think you’re the shit) in every area… if you think you’re basic, why would your man or any man hold you to any other standard?
If you don’t think you’re the shit in every area… if you think you’re basic, why would your man or any man hold you to any other standard?Tweet Me
If you call yourself basic, why would anything think otherwise. AND before you think about getting a man; it may be a good decision to heighten your self-esteem because if you don’t you’ll be looking to him for validation. Validate yourself, first.
We can’t be picky about what someone has to offer us if don’t even know what we have to offer.Tweet Me
4. Know what you bring to the table. We can’t be picky about what someone has to offer us if don’t even know what we have to offer. And I’m not talking about the fact that you’re a business owner because the man you’re looking at may not even care. Can you cook gourmet meals or are you going to Alfredo your man out? Are you good at money management and can hold the household finances down? Can you pray for your man? Can you encourage your man?
What values do you have? What do you really have to offer? And does those things matter to the man/men you want to attract?
All in all, we got so caught up in the delivery that we totally missed it.
It’s nothing wrong with wanting a high value man.
It’s nothing wrong with wanting a six figure man.
But everything is wrong with wanting one because you “feel” like he’s on your level but you all you have to offer is gardening, a business mindset and the work you’re doing on yourself.
Be the woman a high value man seeks.
Be the woman so damn, confident in herself that no man can call her basic.
Be the woman that any man would be grateful to have by his side.
With that, I yield. #keepstruttin.