Dear Sis,
Why do some men INSIST on inviting women to their homes as a first date?
First Dates
Dear Good Sis,
This is a loaded question. It’s several reasons this may happen, and they all stem from one of the US (Women) allowing it.
Efforts in dating and getting to know a person in the beginning stages are getting more and more tricky because social media has made people LAZY across the board. The need for human interaction is far and few in between. These days, you see texts and DM conversations way more than actual phone conversations.
In essence, one thing that comes to mind is where there is a break or lack in the way we communicate, then there is bound to be a lack or break in how we interact as well. Simply put, some men do not want to work hard or put any real effort into actually dating a woman. They are very much so content with the strings of situationships and entanglements as long as physical needs are being met. Women have fallen into the “causal” thing, and it’s the worst place we could have placed ourselves because it’s almost impossible to get out of that frame of mind once you’ve operated in this type of pattern for so long.
Meet, Netflix & chill, smash, argue, fizzle out, repeat – that’s the cycle.
Advice For Future Dates
My best advice to a woman actually trying to date is to set boundaries and STICK to them. If you require to go outside of your respected homes, say that and make it known it’s nonnegotiable. If you want to wait until you’re fully comfortable with a guy before you’re physical, SAY THAT SIS.
Drive your boat. It’s okay to take it slow and observe your chemistry & the emotional maturity of the person that’s trying to get your attention. If you’re ready for a relationship, then you have to present that upfront, so no misunderstandings come later. You can make a clear and conscious decision when you ask questions and access the response to the clear boundaries you set. If the person isn’t with it, they aren’t for you no matter how cute they may be.
Good Luck Sis!!
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