Is your friend Joan Carol Clayton???
Here’s the thing: I don’t think your best friend is jealous of you.
Jealous Friends
When I hear jealous, I think distant and petty. Think of Joan’s disposition during Toni’s wedding weekend, she was very absent and disengaged – a whole new level of self-absorbed. Hell, when she did show up, you could tell her heart wasn’t in it. It was like at every opportunity she found a new way to not be happy for her “friend.”
Best friend is more classist and egregious Joan as opposed to jealous Joan who couldn’t be happy for her friend. This version was overly involved, eager to help, and fund her dream wedding and not Maya’s (in the first season). If you didn’t immediately hear “WHO knows what tomorrow brings…” and see Joan wrapping organza around flowers in the air, I don’t know what else to tell you. Both are frustrating situations that can be damaging to friendships and make you want to say “F it all” but can be easily fixed with a real-life adult conversation. PLEASE DON’T TEXT HER!
Regardless of which version of Joan you are dealing with, if you want to know if she’s jealous, ask her. Communication is key in any relationship, best friends included. Be clear of your expectations of her as a maid of honor and establish clear boundaries so everyone knows their lane. Sis may not realize how she’s coming off and genuinely have a desire to help and support. Joan really thought she was helping Maya by exposing her to new things outside of her budget.
Ask Yourself
One thing to remember, this is your friend. Are you in denial? Or the only one in the situation that knows her? Like REALLY knows her, her heart, her secrets, and where the bodies are buried. Has she been the jealous type in the past or the type to be committed to providing the perfect day for her friend?
I imagine if y’all have been friends for 20 years, she been doing the most. Don’t water the seeds of jealousy with someone else’s hose.
Best wishes, sis, on navigating jealous friends!
JenniferTheTherapist
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