Dear Sis,
Your biggest battles seem to happen before your breakthrough. How did you know it was happening to you?
Breakthroughs Are Coming
This subject is so heavy – especially if I can be fully transparent, I feel like I’m in that phase now. So I tend to notice what I like to call a transitional phase when things start to feel SUPER uncomfortable to me. As I’ve started to grow older and more aware of the company I keep as well as myself. So let’s talk about battles for a moment. Oxford Languages defines the word battle in two ways:
bat·tle
/ˈbadl/
noun
- a sustained fight between large organized armed forces.”the Battle
verb
- fight or struggle tenaciously to achieve or resist something.”he has been battling against the illness”
Both of them are completely accurate given the circumstances. Battle, the noun, speaks in a confrontation against someone or a group of people, and the verb speaks of a struggle.
This is the one I’d unpack a bit. First, it’s important to identify what is causing the struggle. For example, if you are constantly at odds with people, confrontational, and always in an uncomfortable or stagnant spot with people, then the process should identify SELF.
Insights Into My Journey
In my journey that I’m still traveling, I had to reflect on myself A LOT. How I interact, how I respond, and how I victimize myself before acknowledge if my behavior is damaging or not. 9 times out of 10, it was to myself and others.
My breakthrough came when I started to feel completely empty. I knew I wanted happiness, and I also knew I genuinely cared for the people around me. So I put the effort into choosing work that yielded positive results. I paid attention to the things I said and changed my negative perspective into solution-based thinking. I’d ask myself questions like “What can I do to make this better” or “Does this help elevate me and my situation.“ Once I started asking myself those types of questions that held me accountable FIRST, the breakthrough was inevitable. Peace followed and so did the exit of unnecessary things and people.
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